The Free Spirit Book

I’ve been promising to talk about the book that’s coming out this
fall from Free Spirit Publishing. I’ve heard back from Free Spirit that it’s okay to put the cover up here, so it’s time. My understanding is that the book’s scheduled to be released in September 2007.

The name of the book is High IQ Kids: Collected Insights,
Information, and Stories from the Experts,
and it’s edited by
Kiesa Kay, Deborah Robson (me), and Judy Fort Brenneman. It took a
long time to put the book together. The publishing house that decided
to take a chance on it, after many others had said they thought it would be
a great book but not one they could publish, is the perfect publisher to be
issuing it and the people there are wonderful to work with.

So here’s the cover:

Highiqcover

That boy looks like what all three editors (and many of the
contributors) wish our kids had looked like in school. Our kids
didn’t. We put the book together so maybe other people’s similar kids
will look like that. We’ve asked the press if there might be a
similar photo of a girl elsewhere on the outside of the book—maybe
the spine, since so many books are displayed spine-out. Our own kids, whose experiences motivated the creation of this book, are 50/50 split between boys and girls.

A quick overview of how this book came together

I wish I knew where I’d picked up the concept that I’m about to
mention, which has helped me a great deal over the past couple of
decades, but I don’t. I probably came across it thirteen or fourteen
years ago, when I was scrambling to learn what I needed to know about
high-IQ kids, because my
parenting responsibilities suddenly required this type of information on an emergency
basis. The idea stuck because it’s served as a compass point ever since.

The concept is that there is an “optimal” IQ, say between 100
and 145, with which people function easily and well in contemporary
society. The idea is that people with IQs between 115 and 144 are
smart enough to do anything they want but aren’t so smart that they
have trouble fitting in.

I just had to look up the latter set of numbers in the manuscript
of High IQ Kids. I don’t know all that much about IQ stuff,
although I probably know more than most people because I’ve had to
learn.

Personally, I view IQ like height: some people have more, some
less. Some people need to use step stools while others bump their heads
on doorways unless they duck. IQ is an arbitrary measurement, just
like height is. It has nothing to do with the spirit inside. Height might
have something to do with which rides you’re allowed on at an
amusement park like Elitch Gardens, and IQ might have something to do with which activities you enjoy most, but neither of these even
remotely describes the entirety of a person or a life.

The helpful idea that I came across, though, is that children with IQs of 145 and up don’t
just have an extra dose of the same thinking ability that their peers
have. They think differently. They may have trouble
understanding, and being understood by, their age-mates—and their
teachers and their parents, and the psychologists who are often called in
to help everyone get along. Like extremes of height, extremes of IQ make a
profound difference in daily living until you learn how to navigate
in your particular vessel.

Most discussions of IQ don’t differentiate between the experiences of people at different points above a certain IQ level (whatever that is). From X on up (choose a number), all is assumed to be peachy.

Not necessarily.

Many high-IQ kids don’t appear to be smarter than average because
for many of them the extra IQ points come bundled with learning
challenges: for example, an inability to remember math facts, or
cerebral palsy severe enough to prevent speech, or Tourette syndrome,
or ADHD (I’m skipping a digression here on ADHD and intelligence), or a
combination of these and other factors.

About fourteen years ago, I found myself struggling to get my
brain around all this stuff while in crisis. One of the
resource people I discovered was Marlo Rice, a psychologist who
specializes in high-IQ kids and also has helped advocate for individual
students’ needs in the schools. A few years later, because she knew
I’d been engaged for a while in a self-directed crash course in parenting a high-IQ
kid, Marlo gave my name and phone number to Kiesa Kay, who was dealing with similar issues for her children, who were younger than mine. In the middle of this, I
also met, and began to work on freelance jobs with, Judy Fort
Brenneman
. On behalf of her son (mid-range in age between Kiesa’s kids and my child), Judy was paddling her own canoe upstream on the gifted/learning-different river.

Kiesa, Judy, and I all came out of our experiences with a strong
desire to help other parents avoid some of the pain, frustration, and expense that we and our children had encountered.

Kiesa’s first project to put this into action was an anthology she
edited on “twice-exceptional” kids (gifted and
learning-different), called Uniquely Gifted. She asked me to contribute an essay.

Then Kiesa
and Annette Sheely began assembling another anthology, this
one on high-IQ kids (those above 145 IQ). Judy and I first got
involved  as contributors to this work, and later as co-editors with Kiesa while
Annette devoted more time to her counseling practice and her own
incipient parenting.

We’ve been passing the responsibilities for this project back and
forth for a number of years. Now we finally have a book that’s on
its way to being published . . . on its way to doing the work we want
it to do.

It’s the one book we wish we had been able to consult while
we were doing our best to raise our kids. It contains personal
stories that are funny, heartbreaking, and sometimes both, as well as
academic papers that discuss researchers’ studies and insights. It’s
as quirky and wide-ranging as the experience of being one of the
adults in a high-IQ kid’s life.

Experts”

First the people at Free Spirit
said, “This book willl need a different title,” and we said, “Sure. That’s fine. We
aren’t attached to the one on the manuscript, but it’s the best we could come up with
over the years.”

They went into a huddle and then said they
couldn’t come up with anything better, either.

They did suggest a variation on
the subtitle, which we had phrased as something like “for adults
who care.” They shifted this to “from the experts.”

Because I’m
a contributor to the volume, as well as an editor, I gather that I’m
being included with the “experts.”

I think of an expert as someone
who knows a great deal of what there is to know about a topic . . .
therefore, not me. I’m always aware of how much I don’t know
about any given subject.

So I’ve looked up the word expert. I seem to
have greater expectations of someone to whom the word is applied than the dictionary does.

The American Heritage Dictionary gives this definition
for the noun form: “A person with a high degree of skill in or
knowledge of a certain subject.” Here’s what it says about the
adjective form: “Having, involving, or demonstrating great skill,
dexterity, or knowledge as the result of experience or training.”

The meaning of great is
open for debate, but on the subject of raising a high-IQ kid (and a
couple of other topics), I do have some experience that seems to be
helpful to others. I guess the word applies, although I still don’t
accept it comfortably.

However I’ll accept easily that all of the
contributors to this book are sharing their hard-earned knowledge,
acquired as a result of experience, training, or both. I’m one of those contributors. And I’ll
accept that it’s the right subtitle for this book.

Are we there yet?

High IQ Kids is a big
book—about 550 manuscript pages, which will be fewer pages when
it’s typeset but there’s no changing the fact that it’s approximately 124,000 words, including the short
extra list of books Judy and I put together on Wednesday night for
the reference section, at the in-house editor’s request.

I’ll be so glad to see this as a real,
useful book that’s out in the world, available to help parents, teachers, counselors, and
others involved with high-IQ kids’
lives, so the kids themselves can figure out how to get through doorways without
bruising themselves or others.

Although we’ve been through the acquisition-level editing, we’ve still got in-house copy editing,
proofreading, and indexing to manage over the next couple of
months before this book goes to the printer.

But at the moment, it’s off our desks
and on someone else’s! YAY!

Free Spirit Publishing

Free Spirit Publishing, founded by
Judy Galbraith, is a strong, well-focused, independent publishing
house. Several of its early titles helped the editors of the new book stay sane (or as sane as we did stay). Among those books are The
Gifted Kids Survival Guide
(both versions: the one for under-10s and the
one for teenagers) and The Survival Guide for Parents of Gifted Kids.

It’s nice to think that with our own book we are now able to
contribute to the ongoing dialogue and to support the next generation
of parents and kids.

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2 Responses

  1. It seems like a book much needed out there and you guys made a great team to put it together. I often find the “experts” to not know as much as those who have risen out the trenches, so I expect this book will be of great help to others.

  2. Just caught up on your blog and so glad I did. Your book sounds fabulous and so so necessary. School (and life) need to be so much more interesting with kids with high IQ…and few people know what to do about it. As a teacher, I saw this, I’m married to a very bright person, and well, I’m part of a family of smart folk. I wish this book could have been around for my mom, and I know it will help countless others out there. My mil’s approach? I don’t think she kept the results of my husband’s and bil’s IQ tests. She told them something like it was completely unhelpful information for them to know and that they needed to work hard at dealing with life, as it happened…that life is hard for everybody! I think that advice helped!

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